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Twelve Dating Red Flags Not To Ignore

The relationship is perfect but something just doesn’t seem quite right? If he’s committing one of these red flags, then honey, it’s time for you to cut your losses. 

FLAG #1 - HE TRIES TO GET FRESH WITH YOU…ON THE FIRST DATE!

Sure, sex is something that’s on his mind all the time. But if that seems to be the only thing he’s interested in getting you to do on the first date, then you have to wonder what his real intentions are. A man who sees you as a sex object and nothing else is one you don’t want to have a relationship with. And please, don’t fall for his charms. Mr Romeo will do anything to get in your pants. Make sure he keeps his hands to himself. And do yourself a favour: lose his number!


FLAG #2 - HE NEVER HAS TIME FOR YOU

Between his busy work schedule, crazy gym hours, weekend drinking sessions plus his I-need-some-time-on-my-own nights, is there anytime left for poor lonely you? A guy who is never around to spend time with you is not worth the effort. Why are you even in a relationship with Mr I’m Never There? Being a couple means making time for one another. If he doesn’t even have the spare hours to spend it with you, can you trust him to be there when you need him most? Doubt it. 


FLAG #3 - HE ONLY CALLS WHEN HE IS DRUNK

Repeat after us a booty call does not make a relationship. Despite what you may like to believe, you guys are not exclusive. If he is really interested in you and treats you with respect, he won’t be coming around only at night when he’s had a couple of beers with the boys. Instead, he’d be spending time with you, taking you out on movie dates. So the next time he calls just ‘to see what you’re up to’, hang up. 

FLAG #4 - HIS PHONE IS ALWAYS RINGING 

Your guy’s phone is constantly ringing in the middle of the night? Don’t fall for the ‘It’s a work call’ excuse. Chances are he’s probably telling the other woman the same thing when you call. Hate to break it to you, but your guy is a slim shady. And if he takes the call in another room or grabs the phone the second it rings so you won’t even get a chance to peep at the caller ID, he’s guilty as charged.


FLAG #5 - HE DOESN’T FIGHT FAIR

Whether he sulks or calls you names, a guy who doesn’t fight fair isn’t a guy for you. What he should be doing instead is handling the situation like a man and talking it over. If he’s digging up the past, putting up a defensive mode or simply ignoring you, then it’s time to say goodbye and move on to a better bloke.


FLAG #6 - HE DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT

He doesn’t remember your birthday. He can’t be bothered to compliment you. He’s never cooked breakfast or dinner for you. Heck, he can’t even bother to make an effort in bed (most guys are more than happy to do so!). Don’t you deserve to feel special? So why are you with Lazybones? Dump him and make sure your next boyfriend goes the extra mile.


FLAG #7 - HE LEAVES YOU SEVENTEEN VOICE MESSAGES IN ONE HOUR

No, he’s not being sweet; he’s being possessive! There is a difference between missing your voice and calling to check up on you. A healthy relationship is when two people have their own, independent lives apart as well. But if he’s spending his away time from you calling, texting, e-mailing, then you have a clinger. He shows up ‘coincidentally’ where you’re having drinks with your girlfriends? You have a stalker.


FLAG #8 - HE HAS NEVER HAD A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP 

Forget about being the Annette Bening to your Warren Beatty. If your guy tells you that he’s never had a relationship that lasted more than six months, he’s basically telling you that he’s a commitment phobe. No, he’s not asking you to save him or be The One. So don’t waste time and emotions on someone who won’t do the same for you. Our suggestion? Get out.

FLAG #9 - HE IS DEPRESSED ALL THE TIME

He moans about how sucky his job is. He whines about his friends. He complains about the weather. He basically hates his life. So why are you still with him? A depressed person will never make a good partner, seeing how he is only focused on the negativity. You know the saying how you should love yourself before you love another? Well, he’s nowhere near loving himself quite yet. It will only be a matter of time before he starts complaining about you.

FLAG #10 - HE THINKS HE’S GOD’S GIFT TO WOMEN

Really, does he need to look at himself in every mirror he passes? While a little self-love is healthy but a man who is too busy gazing at his own reflection? Can you say narcissist? Good luck trying to get through a man who thinks he’s perfect. The conceited bloke of yours will probably keep reminding you how lucky you are to be with him! Give the inflated ego a reality check and get out of there. 

FLAG #11 - HE CRITICIZES YOU ALL THE TIME

There is never anything right with you your weight, your hair, your clothes, you! If he is constantly trying to change who you are whether it is asking you to change into something more appropriate or criticizing you for something you said you should be worried that he is trying to shape you into a woman he think he deserves. Show him that you do know how to do something right end the relationship.

FLAG #12 - YOUR FRIENDS CAN’T STAND HIM

Look, if the people who love you most can’t stand him, then it is safe to say there is something not quite right with him. You may be blinded with all the romance but your friends and family aren’t. So if your friends are exactly jumping out of their seats when you talk about him, you should be wondering why. Ask for an honest opinion and you’ll soon see the light.